Are You a Feminist NOW?

It Girls Resist the Label, Worried It Seems Anti-Man

Wednesday, June 4, 2014
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School’s out, and it’s a good thing, too — because across the world, young women are being kidnapped, raped, and shot to death while pursuing an education.

If that sounds shocking — terrific. I’m glad to know we haven’t yet become desensitized to the violence that female students are enduring. But we haven’t become sufficiently enraged about it, either. And that’s equally shocking. Remember when girls and women could go to school and expect to graduate unharmed? Here’s what’s happening now:

Starshine Roshell

• There are 164 Nigerian girls missing after being abducted from their school in April by Islamic terrorists who oppose Western education and have threatened to sell the girls into sexual slavery.

• In the U.S., one in five women is being sexually assaulted during college, and more than 50 universities are being investigated by the Office for Civil Rights for mishandling sexual-assault cases on campus.

• And here in our progressive, civilized town, six people were murdered when an angry young guy embarked on a rampage to “punish all females for the crime of depriving me of sex.” The killer, whose name will never appear in a column of mine, left written rants about waging a “war on women.”

While all of that is happening, this is also taking place: Young women are insisting they’re not feminists. From Katy Perry to Lady Gaga, influential It Girls have been resisting the label, worried that it seems anti-man. The latest: Actress Shailene Woodley, star of The Fault in Our Stars, out this week, recently told Time magazine that she’s not a feminist.

“[B]ecause I love men,” said the 22-year-old, “and I think the idea of ‘raise women to power, take the men away from the power’ is never going to work out because you need balance.”

I used to feel like her: embarrassed at all the fuss over women’s rights, uncomfortable with the notion that I needed any protection from defensive chicks with chips on their (tee-hee, mannish) shoulders. Their protests made me flush with shame — the way you do when your mom upbraids a waiter for getting your order wrong. Stop! Please! It’s fine! I’m fine! Quit calling so much attention to us!

I never felt slighted for who I was. Not by anyone. For any reason. But the defensive chicks were the reason why.

It was a testament to the work they had already done for women’s rights that I saw no need whatsoever for such work. I took my nearly equal status for granted, the same way kids born after 2000 will fail to see what the big deal is about a black president. Or how the next generation’s children will take their gay parents’ matrimony for granted.

But to say you’re not a feminist today is to be ignorant of the hard-won victories fought on our behalf. So we could vote. Own property. Earn a paycheck. Wear pants, for god’s sake.

In fact, even being ignorant is a slap in the face of the feminists who ensured our right to an education, when girls in colonial America could only attend school if there were seats left after the boys filled the classrooms. And when women weren’t admitted to any college until almost 200 years after Harvard opened its doors. And when women and men didn’t attend U.S. colleges in equal numbers until 1980 — just a few years before Katy Perry and Lady Gaga were born, for those keeping score.

So listen up, sisters. As long as there are men who see us as game pieces in their political, sexual, and psychological battles, as things to be overpowered, won or lost, possessed or destroyed — then, no, you don’t get to treat feminism like an over-the-top accessory that would ruin your otherwise awesome outfit.

I’ll give Shailene Woodley credit, though, for getting one thing right: We do need balance. And we need it fast.


Independent Discussion Guidelines

This issue runs parallel to the fact that Americans take for granted their constitutional rights. The rights won in the gender equality battle--just like the rights enumerated in The Bill Of Rights, can only be maintained through constant vigilance.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 5:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)

"The Bureau of Justice Statistics' "Violent Victimization of College Students" report tells a different and more plausible story about campus culture. During the years surveyed, 1995-2002, the DOJ found that there were six rapes or sexual assaults per thousand per year. Across the nation's four million female college students, that comes to about one victim in forty students. Other DOJ statistics show that the overall rape rate is in sharp decline: since 1995, the estimated rate of female rape or sexual assault victimizations has decreased by about 60 percent.

Of course, there are still far too many college women who are victims of sexual assault. But there's little evidence to support the claim that campus rape is an "epidemic,"

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 8:08 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Good column, Starshine. Here is a paradox: my experience is that the streets of Manhattan are a much more hostile place for young women than the streets of Isla Vista. Surprised me.

pardallchewinggumspot (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 8:19 a.m. (Suggest removal)

So does anyone care about the nigerian boys that were murdered!!

During the same time those girls were being kidnapped??

The girls are still alive while some of the boys were burned alive or shot while trying to get out of a burning house and now that story is buried and all we hear about is the "poor girls".. sad

What about them??

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 8:34 a.m. (Suggest removal)

No one should assault anyone else. With that said:

1. It's 1:40 not 1:5 Starshine.

2. Men under report sexual assault from women by about 20x. Sexual assault is ANY unwanted sexual advance.

3. Many women's groups use victim hood mentality to gain political control and force various agendas on society via mis-leading stats and dramatic images and protests by a vocal minority.

4. There is an all out war on Men:
- higher unemployment than women
- 1/18 the spending on prostate cancer vs breast cancer despite nearly equal lethality
- parental rights (legally and societal norms)
- mandatory conscription/selective service for war
- live shorter lives
- more than 8000 grants/funds for single moms to go to college but less than 3 for single fathers
- 9 out of 10 women that read this list being dismissive of it

5. But if you protest paying for another woman's contraception via health care premiums or taxes you are at war with women. Never mind that contraception is not for health care and doesn't cure a health condition. (Except in rare instances of abnormal menses it can provide some relief).

realitycheck88 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 9:53 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Good column. As for the fifth follow-on columnist, Martin Mull said it well back in the '70s: .

GregMohr (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 1:58 p.m. (Suggest removal)

According to the Santa Barbara Rape Crisis Center, the statistic is ONE in FOUR students WILL be sexually assaulted during their college years, and according to Take Back the Night, it's ONE in THREE.

NO means NO, even once.

ooshea (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 2:08 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Good for you, Starshine. Unless we remember and understand history, we are doomed to repeat it. The younger generation of women need to read the history of what suffering women went through so this generation of women have the freedoms they take for granted.
Statistics can be used and manipulated to support or debunk any position. What matters is we know rape is occurring in the military, in colleges, etc., and hostile attitudes against women seem to justify and minimize the crimes.
I applaud you, Starshine, for your strong article.

gnp (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 2:22 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Yes ooshea and according to the hippopotamus crisis center, 1 in 2 hippopotamus' will be assaulted during their college years, so you better send them some money.

audidriver should remember this article, I believe he posted it some time back.

I won't say I agree with every single statement made in the article, but it is a different point of view and presents some interesting information.

"73 percent of respondents whom the study characterized as rape victims said that they hadn’t been raped when asked the question directly. Forty-two percent of these supposed victims had intercourse again with their alleged assailants."

If you go out on the internet you will find that there are many feminists who believe that all PV sex is rape (PV = penis/vagina)

Then there are those who promote the idea that any woman who has sex when she is over .08 BAC is being raped. Even if both the man and woman are drunk and the female comes onto the male and initiates sex, apparently she is being raped because she is drunk (even though he is drunk as well).

Then there is the fact that sex is extremely confusing for many young women and this becomes confusing for men as well. They will ebb and flow in their decision on whether to consent to sex with a particular male and may at times lead them into thinking that they will consent. Obviously women they have every right to do this and can remove consent any time before or during the act....but sometimes they may pull that consent AFTER the fact due to regret, confusion and possibly some alcohol.. that is how we get back to the situation before.

The fact is this is all a VERY COMPLEX topic that cannot always be boiled down into something so simple.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 2:52 p.m. (Suggest removal)

So if all colleges and universities are full of rapists as these supposed "statistics" reveal.. why are so many women going to them??

Its a witch hunt.. and the purpose of this is to keep the money rolling in.. so keep repeating the lies.. so that they might even become the truth.

There is no patriarchy... if there was why do only men get drafted? or die earlier..or have no reproductive rights..why are men predominantly the victims of assault and murder..and rape..yes rape!!

Fact is weve all been lied to.. from the day we were born to the day we die..

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 3:09 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I remember posting that article.. what still gets me is this.. talking about putting things in perspective!!

Parroting over 20 years worth of feminist propagandizing, the White House claims nearly 20 percent of female college undergraduates are sexually assaulted during their college years. To put that number in perspective: Detroit residents have been fleeing the city for years due to its infamous violent crime. And what constitutes an American urban crime wave? In 2012, Detroit’s combined rate for all four violent felonies that make up the FBI’s violent-crime index — murder, rape, robbery, and aggravated assault — was 2 percent. The rape rate was 0.05 percent. And yet, despite an alleged campus sexual-assault rate that is 400 times greater than Detroit’s, female applicants are beating down the doors of selective colleges in record numbers.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 3:14 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Do you think the White House is parroting propaganda, or do they have actual statistics? Do you know? If you don't know, then how can that statement be made. Unless of course, you follow the very prevalent evidence-free thinking by too many in this supposedly educated country.

Life is all about making the best of one's abilities, so that one can be productive member of society. Kids, boys and girls, spend most of their childhood pursuing these fundamental goals, often with huge investment of both time and money by their parents. Many high schools have programs that get kids to identify what their future goals are, and assist them in getting there. I doubt that a single kid spends one minute thinking about rape when making plans for their future education, and many would have no idea of the numbers.

Yet you shallowly, and very illogically, tie college attendance statistics to rape. There are very large numbers of automobile deaths per year, yet that stops very few from buying a car. Youngsters are notorious for thinking that bad things will not happen to them, hence the concern about their enrollment numbers in Obamacare.

I think you left logic outside, and just rolled around in emotional hate. Hmmm.......

tabatha (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 4:02 p.m. (Suggest removal)

@ Tabatha.. I dont think you got me.. and its ok.

Yes there might large number of car related deaths but as far as the percentage goes.. I would guess its rather low when you think of how many people drive every day, every year for a certain time and distance and nothing ever happens.

But when people flee a city.. and its attributed to a crime wave thats some 400 times less than what is reported at higher learning places ...

And yet we dont see a drop off in girls seeking higher we?

It doesnt add up.. and its not about feelings or hate.. so dont bring it into this..ok?

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 4:41 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Meant to say "be a" in the first bad!

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 4:41 p.m. (Suggest removal)


There are some men in serious and dangerous delusion and denial here.

I might suggest that anyone, male or female, who feels that men are the victims in need, must explore the concept of male privilege just a bit further than their comments indicate they have so far.

Maybe then they might be able to see a little more clearly where reality might actually exist

RobEgenolf (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 4:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Male privilege largely exists in the upper echelons of society. Politics, the executive board rooms and such are mostly dominated by men. Men, who are mostly married to women, fwiw. Where does that leave the other 95%+ of men? How do I as a straight male benefit from that if I'm not in the upper echelons?

The last office I worked was 80% women and they pretty much ran the place, which was fine with me, I'm just sayin.

As has been said, there is higher unemployment among men. Women naturally perform better at service sector and many office type jobs. Manufacturing jobs are disappearing.

School is designed for women.

Is School Designed More for Girls Than Boys?
"Girls tend to develop certain skills earlier than boys: for example, the ability to sit still and stay attentive. Our school day, more often than not, demands that students do just that — sit for long periods of time and listen attentively"

"Despite the stereotype that boys do better in math and science, girls have made higher grades than boys throughout their school years for nearly a century, according to a new analysis published by the American Psychological Association."

Many women are with or have the option of being with men who are or would be willing to be the breadwinner or primary income earner so that they can have what is said by some to be a fulfilling job of parenting. But they often sacrifice that job and work for material gain, which is fine, but simply having the option sounds like a privilege to me.

That doesn't mean life is easier for women, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and life is very complex and different for each person. Men aren't better than women and women aren't better than men.

The problem is that I think these type of statistics are used as scare tactics by those who have control and want more control. They want a war on women AND a war on men, they want to divide and conquer. They want to take away our rights and they will throw 100 things at the wall to see what sticks. This is designed to make women terrified of men and clamouring for more daddy government. Keep listening to Obama, tabatha, he will take care of you.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 6:26 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Here is something my sister posted on Facebook today. I think she hits on some excellent points:

"Sometimes people do need's just knowing when that is the case.

Let's look at the bigger picture...the elephant in the room that nobody seems to be addressing: the current socioeconomic climate we live in and that these kids are growing up in.

This tormented soul definitely did have mental health issues dating back to his childhood, and his parents did NOT ignore that. I can't say that they did or didn't pursue all possible avenues to help him...I wasn't there. All I know is that they knew their son wasn't firing on all cylinders and they had him under doctor's care since the age of 9.

Now...take this kid, add in a cup of divorced parents and familial dysfunction, a powerful sense of entitlement, a life growing up around the Hollywood scene and all the money and celebrity and "beautiful people" in that world, put him in Isla Vista & UCSB and expect him to function and voila! Slashed roommates and friends, and shot-up strangers.

The aftermath becomes of course, the usual and predictable argument over the Second Amendment, an argument which has served our society so well every time something like this happens (insert heavy sarcasm here), with all the usual suspects nattering back and forth about that pet political football and of course, The Children.

We have always had knives, guns and other assorted weapons in this country. Why all of a sudden do we have this spate of killings? Why do we have so many young people...and I mean REALLY young people, killing themselves? Why do we have so much desperation and rage in our society among the young? Why, if guns are so evil, did we not have this stuff going on from Day 1?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 6:37 p.m. (Suggest removal)

(continued from above--part 2 of 2)
Why are so many kids on medications, when it is not always appropriate in every case? Again, SOME people NEED medications, but not all. Why are we literally tranquilizing our boys (and it IS almost always boys) into slack-jawed submission because they are "acting out"...which in 8 out of 10 cases is nothing more than boys being...well...BOYS. I don't have children, but I do raise dogs, and I am here to tell you that boy dogs are much more active, boisterous and physically demonstrative than girl dogs, going right back to the puppy box before their eyes are even open. This is what boys do. It's normal. It's healthy. Leave them the hell alone. If you can't live with boys being boys, don't have might get a boy...and I'm sorry, but chemically restraining him just because it's convenient is NOT an acceptable option.

We have a lot of questions that as a society and as individuals we should be asking...and we aren't. We instead choose the direction of the herd, chanting mindless natterings about the Second Amendment and all the rest of the assorted platitudes and politically correct, socially acceptable nonsense.

And kids are still killing themselves and other people.'s getting WORSE.

In closing...what are we doing now that is different from what we did then? We have stricter gun control than ever, more laws than ever, and more killings and suicides than ever. It is so expensive to just exist that I wonder what these kids have to look forward to. My Dad and I had that conversation a number of times; what do today's kids have to look forward to? Working all day on your feet for minimum wage and no benefits, no chance at advancement, no shot at secure shelter, education, food, medical care, transportation and clothing? This generation will be hard pressed to even do anywhere NEAR as well as their parents financially or socially...families and neighborhoods are fragmented, the social structure is frayed, people live in their little silos, separated from our fellow humans.

And we think that taking guns and more personal freedoms away from us all is going to fix this? Anyone who believes that is welcome to contact me for information on a bridge I have for sale in San Francisco..."

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 6:38 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Valid points starshine. Then you have sharia law.

Billc, it can't be the guns, right. It's never the guns.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 4, 2014 at 8:22 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Audidriver, women continue to go to universities because no one thinks it will happen to them -- like everything else -- but it does.

And I agree with Rob -- some of the people commenting here are in some serious denial.

P.S. Victims are dead. Anyone who made it through a rape or sexual assault is a *survivor*.

ooshea (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 7:15 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Men are so privilaged... yeah right!

Most women I know wouldnt last one day.. if they were men.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 8:38 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Audidriver2010 your post proved my point far better than I ever could have


RobEgenolf (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 8:51 a.m. (Suggest removal)


How so ??

If this is sarcasm and I think it is.. I bet your the kind of guy that apologizes to women for the "evil male empire" pretends to be a feminist, and parrots BS so he can get laid!


audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:05 a.m. (Suggest removal)

@audidriver2010: "Most women I know wouldnt last one day.. if they were men."

I can't believe someone typed this sentence, hit Preview - actually re-read it, and then hit 'Post Comment' - and published it for the world to see. It's such a stupid sentence, in fact, that I don't think the word 'stupid' adequately describes the sentence... we need a whole new vocabulary to describe the stupidity displayed in that sentence - almost an entire, unique language just dedicated to explaining the stupidity of that sentence. I mean... I almost want to shake your hand for writing a sentence so devoid of merit, intelligence, and substance.

I wish I could have that sentence bronzed. It should have its own exhibit in the Louvre. They should put it next to Mt Rushmore for all to see.

@audidriver2010: "whatevers."

Most certainly... a single 'whatever' is not sufficient...

EatTheRich (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:21 a.m. (Suggest removal)


please tell me why its stupid.. Im all ears!

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:26 a.m. (Suggest removal)

actually, audi's post doesn't need a rebuttal. its content is its own rebuttal. let it sit there in all its glory until it crumbles under the weight of its sheer stupidity.

audi, you were crying the blues on another thread on how women could hook up with jailed felons, yet ignore fine examples like yourself. you do seem like a hell of a catch.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:33 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Now I know im onto to something since Ive raised the ire of 2 posters..both of whom just tell me I'm stupid.

Whether I'm a "catch"or not in your eyes does not affect me at all...

Bring it:)

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:46 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Audidriver I once heard of a narcissist who had appeared to be making progress through self-reflection until one day he declared “I now realize that I was indeed a hopeless narcissist and upon deep reflection and introspection I now understand how foolish that was. What I now realize is that am simply perfect”

RobEgenolf (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:56 a.m. (Suggest removal)


Are you even qualified to render a diagnosis? Should I be paying you for this?? Thanks so much for the free analysis!

I am far from perfect truth be told.. as are you.. I'm also allowed my own distinct opinion.. as you are of course.

I bet if I said the sky was blue.. you would probably want to argue with me about it.

I have certain ideas about things that arent all.. I know this.. and what this board allows me is the ability to post them.. without any physical retribution.. because for some it might invoke it.. so I apologize for anything Ive said and will say in the future...because I dont have to comply with your expectations... and neither do you with mine.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 10:16 a.m. (Suggest removal)


Until a whole discussion is even-handed, it will not be accurate, or that more elusive quality, right, or that most elusive quality, fair.

FirewindII (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 4:07 a.m. (Suggest removal)

that I don't think the word 'stupid' adequately describes the sentence... we need a whole new vocabulary to describe the stupidity displayed in that sentence - almost an entire, unique language just dedicated to explaining the stupidity of that sentence. I mean... I almost want to shake your hand for writing a sentence so devoid of merit, intelligence, and substance.

I wish I could have that sentence bronzed. It should have its own exhibit in the Louvre. They should put it next to Mt Rushmore for all to see.

@audidriver2010: "whatevers."

Most certainly... a single 'whatever' is not sufficient...

EatTheRich (anonymous profile)
June 5, 2014 at 9:21 a.m.

I have been trying to make the most insane comments of any blogger on this site for about a couple of years now, and to see audidriver's posts really upsets me. In spite of every effort I have made (if you check my previous comments you might agree) to be offensive, asinine, and to make a mockery out of every thing around me, I may have to concede that I run in 2nd place behind audi.

I will take one last stab before I throw in the towel by saying "Are we not, we are Devo!"

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 5:12 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Thanks for this great column, Starshine. My four sisters would completely agree with you, women today may need to do more than simply LEAN IN some, possibly TAKE OVER and introduce the Matriarchy now.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 6:32 a.m. (Suggest removal)

You know whats really sad?? When someones a slave and they dont even know it! Like most of the men on this board that reply with the same old BS that just doesnt apply anymore. Wake up men!! I guess as long as you keep in line and dare not critisize your master.. you'll be happy and content.. I treat women as equals, most dont like it.. I dont place them on a pedestal above me nor do I treat them like children. I ask men to do the same if you dare.. but then you might not get laid..oh boo hoo!! If thats the case then guess who has the power?? Who votes more often and in bigger numbers?? Who controls the spending in this country? Who can summon random men to do their bidding?? Who can call a man up anytime for sex?? ( girls I know call that penis on demand) Who never has to register for the draft? Who changes their mind during a consensual sex act? Who files for divorce and gets everything without question? Who wants to walk down a dark alley drunk and expect nothing to happen? Who lives longer? Who gets more federal money for their healthcare?

“Men’s greatest weakness is their facade of strength, and women’s greatest strength is their facade of weakness.”

W. Farrell

The more you ignore me..the closer I get!

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 9:15 a.m. (Suggest removal)

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 9:35 a.m. (Suggest removal)

rot row, first bmw, next audi youtube soliloquies.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 9:38 a.m. (Suggest removal)


Herschel_Greenspan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 9:45 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Just in case I get asked for sources.....

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 9:56 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Thanks for this great column, Starshine. My four sisters would completely agree with you, women today may need to do more than simply LEAN IN some, possibly TAKE OVER and introduce the Matriarchy now.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 6:32 a.m.

That's the core of the problem Dan, the "us-against-them" mentality. Here is an alien concept: People working together for a common goal, not kissing up to what is P.C. and trying to score points with women at the expense of all men. How ironic that the same progressives who clamor for your idea cheered when Margaret Thatcher died, and certainly Sikhs were no big fans of Indira Gandhi when she was killed.

Corruption and evil can affect both sexes.

"If there's war between the sexes then there'll be no people left- Joe Jackson, from the song "Real Men".

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 3:09 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Rape stats show a significant decline in the last 40 years:


Like, a 75%+ decline.

Starshine had much more to fear when she was younger than a young girl nowadays.

Do you punish your dog when he is behaving better or do you reward them? I'm not saying men are dogs or that we should be collectively rewarded or punished for the actions of others who happen to also be men, and I'm definitely not saying any amount of rape is ok.. but let's put things in perspective. Maybe question some of the information we are being given that is clearly meant to create negative feelings between groups and push political agendas.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 3:33 p.m. (Suggest removal)

sure am all for this, BC, "People working together for a common goal" you should try it.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 3:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Bill, I meant the June 6, 2014 at 6:32 a.m comment in gentle sarcasm, not in any sort of us-vs-them way, I'd say you took the angle wrong. Starshine means woman shouldn't take the old-style male patriarch sh!t anymore, I was lamely saying Up the the Matriarch! Hey, I do have several sisters, all powerful, independent woman who do good in this world: we need more women and men like this. Simple.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 4:51 p.m. (Suggest removal)

up WITH the Matriarchy, oops

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 5 p.m. (Suggest removal)

So girls---Are you brainwashed gender bigots now? Who lie shamelessly about everything under the moon? Who are card carrying members of the world's largest and most officially coddled hate movement? And who see men as game pieces in your pigheaded political, sexual, psychological, social, and cultural battles, as disposable objects to be over controlled, won or lost, trapped and destroyed?

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 7:13 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Those brainwashed male boobs above who worship the matriarchy need to take a close look at The Woman Racket by Moxon. Feminist gender bigots who bite the patriarchal hand that feeds, clothes, shelters and protects em need to be tossed to the dogs. Constant male male or female male hatred will not bring us all back from the brink as a nation.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 7:29 p.m. (Suggest removal)

DrDan: Do you have any brothers?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 6, 2014 at 11:52 p.m. (Suggest removal)

We are all Feminists now. Mr. Sealion, tear down that ceiling.

Ken_Volok (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 12:07 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Well, at least we have another sea creature to add to our group.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 12:18 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Watch out he doesn't eat all your tuna.

Ken_Volok (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 12:29 a.m. (Suggest removal)

audidriver2010 - I have had, and I expect most women have had, more sexist problems in the big, bad world outside of college than at college. That does not stop any woman from joining the big, bad world outside of college. Your argument about college attendance simply has no merit.

And as for the statement of women not making it one day if they were men - I am going to make a stupid statement, too - many men would not be able to deal with what women have to deal with on a daily basis. Some men could; some could not.

And for once, I agree with loonpt on something:

"That doesn't mean life is easier for women, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and life is very complex and different for each person. Men aren't better than women and women aren't better than men."

Sealion - I don't recognize myself or any female friends or acquaintances in the descriptions you post of women. Some weird issues, there. I am sorry for whatever go you to that point.

tabatha (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 5:43 a.m. (Suggest removal)

agree with Tabatha at end of her post. Sealion, of course there are indeed "Feminist gender bigots" -- and bigots of every stripe and sort all over the globe. In terms of Western Civilization, the three Abrahamic religions are crudely patriarchal, and men have larger bodies and go violent more easily than women [note gender of the shooters; the % of males in prison, ETC]... that some women over-react and over-reach and become reverse gender bigots,that's bad. However, my point was how many splendid, intelligent, thoughtful, wise WOMEN there are and it's great for the USA when even more LEAN IN. It is also the task of the balanced great women to admonish their sisters who take the "bash the males" route, and I guess they do that, how would I know, that happens in the womens lodge.
BC, following your unity call for sharing a "common goal" , I gotta say all men are my brothers. And you're totally wrong asserting I was "kissing up to what is P.C" and playing up to the power women. If YOU wrote what I did above ("Up with the Matriarchy!"), for you that would be kissing up to PC, get it? And consider your buddy KV's important comment, "We are all Feminists now", and I've been one since the early 70s.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 7 a.m. (Suggest removal)

"We are all Feminists now. Mr. Sealion, tear down that ceiling." Only fascist female bigots and emasculated male traitors (read Biden and Obama) are feminists now. Do your homework as a male or prepare to be castrated by ignorant or intentionally evil 'rape culture' bigots like Starshine and her ilk. Your tuna is already being eaten by the Great Whites who populate the totalitarian tyranny that is our government. If you don't believe me visit Mike Buchanan's (Justice for Men and Boys) YouTube channel or attend the first international MHRM conference in Detroit later in the school yourself on some very very unpleasant realities. That said, knowing your history of close-minded head in sand statements, I'm not confident that you will be able to secure you balls anytime soon.

"Sealion - I don't recognize myself or any female friends or acquaintances in the descriptions you post of women. Some weird issues, there. I am sorry for whatever go you to that point." I hope you DO recognize the bigoted 'rape culture' falsehoods trotted out by the woman in the OP above. Most of your female friends are probably just ignorant women who have swallowed the poisonous pink Kool-aide unknowingly but for men, mainstream feminism is pure tyranny. That's because we were already the Disposable Sex before a few fascist representatives of Indispensable (read coddled) 'Gender' (Sex) starting raping even more rights and resources from us using an evil Marxist ideology recycled from the trash heap of history.

Dr Dan-please do your homework on sex, gender and feminism...and the routine rape of male human rights thanks to both biology and fascist mainstream feminism. I have never seen one SB woman speak out publicly about the tyranny of mainstream gender feminism despite the fact that all of the pigheaded female politicians here are card carrying members of said totalitarian titterdom. You simply cannot be a man or be a brother to men as long as you ascribe to an evil ideology (gender feminism) which is about destroying men and boys AS men and boys. That's not personal. It's just intended to induce you dig in and do your homework on the world's largest and most officially coddle hate movement.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 8:10 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Sealion like Audidriver's post before you, your post validates Starshine's points far more than you might ever imagine

You might wish to seek some professional help to deal with what appears to be a self-victimization disorder.

RobEgenolf (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 5:43 p.m. (Suggest removal)

agree RobEgenolf, Sealion needs help.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 8:32 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Rob and Dan, you both need to stop the stupid feminist shame games...and acknowledge/address some very very unpleasant realities...or you will be colluding in the destruction of your very own Sex. Erin Pizzey's 'Evil Empire' needs to be totally destroyed: if men and women are ever going to get back to some sort of constructive cooperation. Hopefully, her story and professional help as a fine old female survivor of said evil empire will do you some serious good. Otherwise, you will probably remain hopeless male flunkies marinated in mean spirited anti-male tyranny forever. Your choice, of course, but don't expect respect from either men or (decent) women as traitorous male toadies...given that you damn well do have good opportunities to know better now.

As for Starshine, there are simply no legitimate or honest points for me or for Mr. Audidriver TO validate because she is merely parroting pigheaded 'rape culture' propaganda here. Her 'we do need balance.' call is particularly hilarious in a world in which fascist feminist bigots have made sure that female forms of rape are not even defined as rape in the FBI's new definition of the term. Who really is self victimizing here?

P.S. Please do note that even fascist feminists bigots need to have their right to free speech protected...ironically a right they routinely rape from anti-feminists, MRHM's, and 16 year old female 'terrorists' at UCSB. Therefore, I'm NOT suggesting that we LEGALLY ban feminist bigots from screaming shamelessly stupid slogans, from sharing utterly fraudulent stats, or from proudly strutting their stuff as SlutWalking whores in public. Such 'lovely' behavior from the most twisted totalitarian members of the female Sex is hugely helpful in sorting through the mess feminists have made of womanhood in general...and always deserves to be protected as a fundamental shared right whatever the reason.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 12:48 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Sealion: Tune out the feminist Y-Chromesone haters and focus on the majority of women who are not like that. You don't want to become the male version of Valerie Solanas.

The more you obsess on them, you will fall prey to the hatred that has consumed them.

We're all in this mess together.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 3:34 a.m. (Suggest removal)

agree RobEgenolf, Sealion needs help.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 7, 2014 at 8:32 p.m.

We sea creatures all stick together. We have to back each other.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 3:46 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Bill Clausen:

Do me a favor. Tune in to the peril that ANY minority of evil but influential fascist bigots represent...and play your part in dismantling their evil empire. Since there is NOT a SINGLE woman in SB who PUBLICLY states that she is NOT like that...and tons of proud public women like Starshine, or like our infamous Gaucho porn professor who are like that...and who are backed by the 'progressive' PC powers from behind the scenes...and since there is not a single man in SB who directly confronts this bigoted anti-male hate movement in public...I've got good reason to be disgusted and should be any 'peace and love' man or woman with half a brain. When said group has subjugated most of the lame stream faux-liberal press, captured both ruling puppets in the White House, and cowed the (even more dangerous) traditionalist opposition political party into submission with ironically idiotic accusations of a War On Women, it's long past time to take this threat to our democracy, to our shared humanity, and to our shared manhood seriously.

The majority of women (and men, sadly) in SB seem to be brainwashed boobs as far as sex and gender are concerned. That's because these are very personally and politically loaded topics...topics which our favorite feminist bigots have exploited 'mistressly' for propaganda purposes. Goebbels would have been proud.

Confronting these totalitarian twits has got to one of the most tedious intellectual exercises anyone can undertake. That's because they have been discredited everywhere, because they make the same stupid, dishonest, and utterly fraudulent arguments over and over and over, and because they prove their inability to compete as 'gendered' intellectual equals every time they open their mouths. Therefore, it'd be real nice if men like you would deign to step in to help drain their estrogen sewer.

Please stop worrying about me becoming a male version of the violent anti-male who is STILL openly worshipped by these mainstream bigots...and join those of us here who are confronting the world's most officially coddled hate movement. Only by pitching in together with our potent masculine mental pumps will we be able to drain this particular poisonous 'progressive' sewer. The stakes couldn't be higher for men and boys as long as these progressive bigots are able to control the official narratives about men and boys:

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 8:42 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Actually Sealion, I have no problem confronting this bigots, and I even sign my real name to my posts when I do it.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 6 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I liked your elephant in the room analysis above but since you missed the primary elephant Starshine and her ilk keep stampeding into the room so opportunistically, I had to wonder whether you were able to see the forest for the trees. Feminism has done more than anything to destroy fatherhood and the patriarchal family. Thus the wide range of ills you outlined above have become both possible and encouraged.

Glad to see you are willing to pitch in though. Kudos for using your real name too. Every man and woman who isn't silenced by our favorite fascist bullies carries a lot of weight.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 8, 2014 at 10:25 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Sealion: Many in our pod have dated humans, and have always had problems. Stick to your fellow sea creatures, they dont manipulate or play head games.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 5:06 a.m. (Suggest removal)

To Learn Who Rules You... Find Out Who You Can't Criticize..


audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 9:22 a.m. (Suggest removal)

audi and sealion must've had their clocks cleaned by a female in the past. get over it lads, hurt passes with time.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 1:15 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Lawdy, please add your shameless shame tactic to the catalog of feminist shame tactics online. That way you and you bigoted feminist buddies (above) won't have to work as hard to be vicious and nasty. And oh by the way, you forgot to add my favorite fellow sea creature as a target for your asinine ad hominem ire. He's gotta be feeling a bit neglected right about now, dontcha think?

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 2:07 p.m. (Suggest removal)


Thanks so much for the info!!

@sealion... I think shaming tactics being employed at this time is quite funny!! Next it will be the usual: lives at home with mom, unlucky with the ladies.. or the "small penis" joke..Ive heard them all..and they are almost always used when someone doesnt have a valid argument.

Feminism is nothing more that female superiority..and it goes hand in hand with the mantra that most men are spoon fed from day one.. that we are disposable..and we dont matter.

Just because I have an issue with feminism doesnt mean I dont like women.. or trust them or respect them.. because I do..

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 2:29 p.m. (Suggest removal)

you nailed it, lawdy.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 2:39 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Sealion and Audidriver

Sometimes it is helpful to realize when you are already in a pretty deep hole and to learn how to simply stop digging.

RobEgenolf (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 6:09 p.m. (Suggest removal)

DrDan-Let's hope no one ever gives you a hammer and nails...much less a scalpel and tails.

Rob- I assume you are applying your realizations to yourself here? Shame gaming your opponents as 'sick' or 'in need of professional help' (just because you don't have a single solid or somewhat sane response to offer yourself) is one of the oldest totalitarian tricks in the faux-progressive play book. Next you'll be calling us 'misogynists' as your 'nuclear option' but that won't work either because anti-fascist (anti-feminist) is NOT equal to anti-woman...anymore than anti-Nazi is equal to anti-German.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 11:53 p.m. (Suggest removal)

DrDan-Let's hope no one ever gives you a hammer and nails Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 11:53 p.m.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 9, 2014 at 11:58 p.m. (Suggest removal)

thanx sea buddy; I love Trini Lopez! Didn't Bobby Darin do that one, too?? Man, I'm ringin' it in the morning for sure.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 5:52 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Back to the original reason why I posted here!

Its offensive to me as it should be to others.. that this keeps happening.. and its a tiny blip on the news radar..but we never stop hearing about the girls that are still alive!

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 8:59 a.m. (Suggest removal)

audidriver2010 - absolutely agree. The sooner the person is more important than their gender, the more civilized the world will be. The sooner the person rather than their looks is more important, ditto.

I have seen abuse by both genders in my life. On the female side, it was not because of feminism, but because of a poor upbringing that severely damaged the soul where everything from the male seemed like an attack, and self-esteem was only fostered by wearing the pants, so to speak. .

I would suggest that if the problems of people were better understood and treated, it would not devolve into gender specific issues - because there are damaged individuals of both genders who often inflict their problems on the opposite gender. One side sees it as feminism, the other as male harassment.

Less vitriol and more discussion would be more productive.

tabatha (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 9:27 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I will hold the vitriol when people quit repeating the same old bs on this board..

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 9:42 a.m. (Suggest removal)

The vitriol can mask the message from the reader ... if the message is important, then it should be made as clear as possible. Sometimes, vitriol is such a turn off, that the message is not even read.

tabatha (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 9:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Starshine, I enjoy your columns, they make me laugh, they make me think.

I'm a male, middle aged, feminist in that i believe in equality and have nearly always behaved accordingly. I am secure in my maleness and don't need to denigrate women to feel that confidence, it just comes naturally. Reading some of the comments makes me want to hold my head, some make me want to cry. Its no wonder the Rodger Elliot's of the world develop their tormented thought processes. Extremism in any form should be suspect. The (insecure?) fearful misogynists who claim superiority, that alone is frightening and gives excuse to those unable to perceive a reality where we are all in this together and are here to love and support one another.

Dr Dan, thanks for your voice of reason, you've always had my respect even when we don't agree.

Eggs_Ackley (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 10:21 a.m. (Suggest removal)

@ eggs

more shaming huh?? Men that claim to be feminists crack me up... is your wife in the room?? Dont let your master read your post!!
Men like you.. that claim to be feminists.. tell me why??
Nice to know that you "behave" for your master..

The war isnt on women its on men.. its just waged in manner thats hard to see.. but I see it. .. why dont you??

Im not insecure or superior..Im just a guy thats tired of the bs.. Ive been putting up with it for too long.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 10:42 a.m. (Suggest removal)

'Im not insecure or superior'

uh huh.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 10:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)


thats all you can say?? why are you here then ?? lets have a real discussion.. ok??

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 10:57 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Real discussion is anathema to eye rolling bigots who smile about male suffering: in the same way thinking is for middle aged male feminists who still cling tightly to the facile falsehood that feminism=equality.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 11:20 a.m. (Suggest removal)

audi, your rage needs professional help, normally not found here in indy posts.

eggs pov is imo is a good call..

sealion....a great trade would be your extensive vocabulary for a balanced pov.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 11:30 a.m. (Suggest removal)


and again.. nothing from you that states your opinion.. just more shaming bs..

truth is your afraid of a real discussion.. thats what I think.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 11:44 a.m. (Suggest removal)

If there is a "patriarchy".. then why are things so bad for men??

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 11:58 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Lawdy are becoming very very tedious. Go visit this site: After forty or fifty years of the most pigheaded FEMALE rage (feminism) imaginable, you still dare to accuse a very reasonable man of Code Red...and call MEN your 'oppressors' as a feminist backer.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 2:57 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Dr.Dan, I dont know if Darin covered that song, but I know Peter, Paul, and Mary did.

Sealion, I just blasted loonpt for attacking us sea creaters, and he specifically mentiones sealions

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 3:17 p.m. (Suggest removal)

last try at rehab for you, Sealion. When you angrily [note your CAPS] write "After forty or fifty years of the most pigheaded FEMALE rage (feminism) imaginable" one sees that you equate "feminism" with "female rage" and anger. That is not my definition of feminism, and it's not at all a standard and accepted definition. Your definition is like a hate attack. My many female relatives, including very powerful women (including a former Director of the UCLA Women's Center back in the day), never define 'feminism' like you do, that is not what feminism is at all. You poor guy.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 6:18 p.m. (Suggest removal)

He wont go Dr.Dan and here is why

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 6:34 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Dr. Dan- Mainstream feminism IS very retarded female rage packaged in an evil amalgam of bankrupt ideologies recycled from the trash heap of history and applied in bigoted bills like VAWA. My definition is based on solid scholarship. Your's is tbased on activist indoctrination and anecdotal evidence from the very gender bigots who most depend on whitewashing a very hate filled movement.

Stop worrying about ridiculing me and get busy on your home work or you will increasingly be seen as a brainwashed boob.
No genuinely powerful woman can run a feminist center of any kind because feminism is based on an ideology of niggardly nonsense. Powerful women look like Erin Pizzey or Daphne Patai because they diss feminism mercilessly...and for very very good reason too.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 7:10 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I take back what I said sealion. 'Very very tedious' I oversold your vocabulary.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 7:20 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Replace "boob" with "breast", replace "retarded" with "special needs" or "mentally challenged" and for the culturally challenged, "niggardly" has nothing to do with race, but means "stingy".

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 7:57 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Thanks dp14. Always comforting to know that the Great Whites have a very formidable foe inside your particular pod...loon or no loon. And lawdy, since vocab seems to be your thing, you can add 'illiberal' to dp's definition too. Both fit feminism to the t.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 9:24 p.m. (Suggest removal)

What the Sealion is referring to was dealt with in Dinesh D'Souza's tome "Illiberal Education". If memory serves me correctly, it was his breakthrough work critiquing the dichotomy of stated educational purposes from the practices therein.

OK folks, this is the only serious post you will get from me for a while, so savor it, ponder it, and ask yourselves "what will Dolphinpod post next" as I keep you all in suspense.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 10:52 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Here is a very intelligent female discussing the dynamic of male disposability in society, very interesting:

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 10, 2014 at 11:57 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Saying you're a feminist makes you no more a crusader for gender equality than going to church makes you a Christian.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 12:11 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I don't give a sh!t about ridiculing you, Sealion, in fact it's obvious you crave that sort of attention. My definition of feminism -- not your grotesque "an evil amalgam of bankrupt ideologies recycled from the trash heap of history" -- is based on over 50 years living with and near magnificent humans (who happen to be female), on working in schools for over 43 years (schools are often fem. dominated, good!!), and I rely on the thoughtful Indy posters to determine which of us is "a brainwashed boob." I pity the women who live around you. Do get some therapy, you desperately need it.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 4:15 a.m. (Suggest removal)

@dolphin, try to avoid your "serious" posts since the ref. to Dinesh DeSouza shows a lot about the human in you: his Illib. Educ. is a joke. No "breakthrough scholarship" there, sheesh!
Just so you know, DeSouza is also a criminal who was just convicted and admitted his guilt: he will spend the next 10 - 16 months in jail.
It does make sense that Sealion uses words like "niggardly" and "brainwashed boob" -- hmm.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 4:25 a.m. (Suggest removal)

DeSouza's admission of guilt and verdict of guilt with recommended 10 - 16 month jail term; he got off a more serious second charge which had a 5 year sentence:

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 4:28 a.m. (Suggest removal)

D'Souza should have been arrested long ago, for having dated Ann Coulter. Actually, he should have been sent to a mental institution.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 5:44 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Does anybody here notice something missing? Here is a hint, "Foofighter". Where is FooFighter?

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 6:16 a.m. (Suggest removal)

please, dolph14, don't mention the F-word on these holy threads, eh?!

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 6:44 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Dr Dan- I had hoped that you'd be able to pull your head out of your nether hole long enough to see at least a little light but since that's always a long shot for most brainwashed boobs in SB, I'm not the least bit surprised. That said you can be sure that I don't give a blank about your ridicule...and I never crave attention from brainwashed boobs...particularly from MALE boobs like you.

FYI: the definition I offered you above was adapted from Spreading Misandry...the first tome in an erudite trilogy on feminist inspired misandry by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young. Spreading Misandry, Legalizing Misandry and Sanctifying Misandry are the best books out there which deconstruct the evil ideology you worship so blindly. Undressing Feminism (ugh) by Klein, Professing Feminism by Patai and Who Stole Feminism by Hoff Sommers provide solid reinforcement for N&Y's scholarship as well.

That said since you've been living in the PoMo estrogen sewer: for forty three years, and worshipping women who most assuredly never told you about your OWN biological and social disposability as a male (boob) for fifty, I don't imagine you will ever bother to STUDY anything intended to destroy your pigheaded programming. Your loss big boy. Your castration and your emasculation have obviously already been accomplished long ago but you can always stop squeaking and start shouting as soon as you PICK UP SOME BOOKS.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 9:26 a.m. (Suggest removal)

OK, posters: you judge, are you with Sealion's love of that deep trilogy "Spreading Misandry, Legalizing Misandry and Sanctifying Misandry"..."the best books out there which deconstruct the evil ideology" of feminism ?
Base your views on the wonderful women (and men) you have met in your life vs. the imporant "research" in this books.
Again, poor Sealion, he needs help, perhaps a woman to guide him through this life?

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 1:13 p.m. (Suggest removal)

sealion, you need to go nuts deep into the map of tasmania just one time, you'll change your tune.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 1:51 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Sealion and Audi, the points of view you have expressed are cause for concern. As a compassionate human, I suggest that some self reflection on your extreme points of view is in order. Yes they are extreme and don't delude yourselves that they are not. Carrying around that much anger and hatred for half the world's population is not good for you and is certainly not allowing you the happiness each of us is capable of.

Audi what exactly is the bs you are putting up with? Don't link me, nutshell it in one or two short sentences. I can't shame you, that emotion comes only from within.

Sealion: "male suffering"? I understand you may feel that way and have good reason. It's just not the majority opinion. Elliot Rodger formed his world view in somewhat of a vacuum based on a few unfavorable(to him) interactions and then used the Internet to bolster his malformed opinions. Maybe you are doing something similar. Are you somewhat reclusive? A tad anti-social? The world is not against you, and your opinions are merely points of view but there is no questioning your humanity and intrinsic goodness.

Eggs_Ackley (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 2:21 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I think you are both completely talking past each other and as the saying goes I don't think you can judge a book by its cover (or title) so it would be very tough for me to say.

I do think the youtube video I posted above makes some good points regarding the dynamic of the disposability of men in society, in the past as well as how it affects us in modern times and how it has translated into virtually a form of slavery.....although I think we are all slaves in many senses that have nothing to do with gender and this is just one aspect of our slavery. I wouldn't say that women are the slavemasters or drivers and certainly would not blame them individually for our current state, but they are in some ways the beneficiaries.

I am probably a little sexist in that I generally like women more than men (maybe like 55/45 ratio, I like to do stuff with guys too), but I think there is a strong argument to be made that society tends to unjustly coddle females and demonize men (However I also think that there are things some women are unjustly demonized for). This is coming from someone who voluntarily coddles a certain female through my own volition, and I have no problem with people doing that on their own accord. However if I don't find the appreciation I feel I deserve then I have the freedom to leave that relationship if I choose. By giving everybody more freedom I think this situation would resolve to a better equilibrium, but of course that is what I always say.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 2:22 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Feminists like to talk a lot about the wage gap, and even though their methodology is flawed and it turns out they make about the same amount for the same work, they sure don't like to bring up things like the 93% workplace death gap.

Also, I'd be more interested in a 'spending' gap than a wage gap. How much money do women SPEND vs. men? Dave Chappelle is famous for having a comedy skit where he says that most men would be happy having sex with a woman and living in a cardboard box, but he buys the house to get the woman. That may be exaggerated, but how many men here were pressured into buying a nicer house because of the woman they are with?

However even if you split housing among all of the occupants equally, what would a spending report in this country look like? With healthcare? Without health care? I think the results might be surprising.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 2:25 p.m. (Suggest removal)

DrD. Only in fascist academic covens like GWS do popularity contests work to judge scholarship. Your primary problem is that I'm rich with wisdom from genuine women who condemn fascist female tyrants (mainstream feminists). Wonderful women naturally tend to be vociferously anti feminist.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 2:52 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Eggs---In the fantastical feminist world in which reality is turned upside down, the majority opinion means little. However as Loon notes above males, NOT females, are the Disposable Sex. We just coddle the already Indispensable 'Gender' so assiduously and unconsciously that we are not even aware how many infantile entitlements flow one way to women and girls.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 3:05 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Loon---Male Disposability means that men are likely to be more respected than liked. Female Indispensability means that women are more likely to be liked than respected. All for very good biological reasons too...something that three decades of fascist feminist sociology hasn't changed one whit.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 3:21 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Eggs--You can and you have hit people way below the belt in an ATTEMPT to shame em. Unfortunately for you, for your twisted sisters and for your buggered brothers that particular form of feminine social aggression is becoming ever more amusing to its intended targets. It don't win you any points either.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 3:31 p.m. (Suggest removal)

very happy for you, Sealion, that you are "rich with wisdom" -- I am seeking wisdom, but not from your misandry trilogy.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 4:38 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Pizzey's great insight is "that women can be as vicious as men" -- like this is a news flash or something, Sealion? Cleopatra VII murdered her half-brother Ptolemy whatever... Pizzey:
Learned little there except women can also be quite cruel. And so they could be long ago, heard of Jezebel, Ahab's Queen? Anecdotal evidence like this is worthless. You need to do a lot more research to confirm your prejudices and hatred, Sealion, get to work now.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 4:50 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Dr is getting amusing now. I think we've got some serious cognitive dissonance going on. An online conversion coming next by chance?

Throw away Katherine Young and her male co-author at your great peril as a man if you like because anti feminists, free speechers, and MHRM's are beginning to blow away Starshine's filthy and very very dishonest hate movement en masse. Soon you will have nowhere to go where the F word is popular or respected. Simply put your favorite totalitarian tyrants are losing control of the narrative.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 5:09 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Why hasn't the name Camille Paglia come up yet?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 5:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I love Paglia, Bill. But since she always hammers away at Dr. D's Orwellian academic racket, I wasn't sure he'd be able to stomach her before he had some Preparation H(off Sommers) to ease passage of the feminist portion of said racket..

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 6:23 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I've read some Paglia, of course, and in fact use her GLITTERING IMAGES in my classes. This description is good, Paglia is "a writer in a category of her own... a feminist who hates affirmative action; an atheist who respects religion" and "a Democrat who thinks her party doesn't get it." Martha Duffy writes that Paglia "advocates a core curriculum based mostly on the classics " I also advocate such a curriculum, and have no fear of featuring goodly numbers of old dead white men, as the phrase goes.
Your "Orwellian academic racket" charge is a senseless, sealion, as your hatred of women.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 7:16 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I'm a Pagliaphile.

Ken_Volok (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 7:42 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Women do some pretty sick stuff too, look at what one woman did to my uncle.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 7:45 p.m. (Suggest removal)

DrDan and Sealion: How do you (and anyone else who wants to get in on this) feel about the following woman--who is the former president of the Los Angeles chapter of the National Organization of Women?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 7:59 p.m. (Suggest removal)

..and Starshine, I'm guessing the "are you a feminist NOW" was an acronym-based pun?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 8 p.m. (Suggest removal)

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 8:13 p.m. (Suggest removal)

dp14---Fascinating article. Imagine had your aunt been diddled by a dirty old male two legged land animal rather than a filthy female one. Doubt if the reaction would have 'equal'.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 9:44 p.m. (Suggest removal)

You calling Paglia senseless now, Dr.
D? She mercilessly mocks PoMo Humanities. For you, Vamps and Tramps is indicated.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 9:56 p.m. (Suggest removal)

BillC---Tammy Bruce's feminism is recycled tripe. Visit A Voice for Men to see why.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 10:44 p.m. (Suggest removal)

You calling Paglia senseless now, Dr.
D? She mercilessly mocks PoMo Humanities. For you, Vamps and Tramps is indicated.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 9:56 p.m.

Sealion, just ignore clausen's man-crush on Tammy Bruce and listen to this for 10 seconds, it addressed word for word your post.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 11, 2014 at 11:11 p.m. (Suggest removal)


In an earlier post you celebrate the fact that there are more females in education...why?? Why are there more ?? Why have men left the vocation?? Maybe because of the witch hunt and the levels of false accusations so rampant that one false claim can ruin a mans life forever.
Men are good.. men do good things everday.. and never get thanked or applauded..

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 11:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Because I was told I was "mad" and should seek help.. Im sharing this with you.. and no .. most of whats contained in the article has never happened to me..a few things.. but its happened to many of my friends and coworkers

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 12:13 p.m. (Suggest removal)

and then theres this /\ /\ /\

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 12:28 p.m. (Suggest removal)

it is my understanding, audidriver, that with the historic patriarchal dominance in the USA, and women being barred from most of the heavier "professional" universities and schools, somehow it was socially acceptable for some ladies to run libraries and become teachers at local public schools. Barred (mostly) from becoming medical doctors, lawyers, college profs, high government mucky-mucks, thoughtful and intelligent women who wanted a life outside the home could more easily become nurses, schoolteachers, and librarians. Remember Marian the Librarian? Or the older schoolmarm in the little Red Schoolhouse? There was a spinster women who taught about 14 farm students at MANZANA SCHOOLHOUSE about 1900 or 1901 -- pay horrible, living conditions horrible, this was her professional and independent position.
Thus, it is less about men leaving the teaching profession than women finding an oasis of professional acceptance there, mostly in elementary school. Also, today, some men fear working in a female-heavy system; I've done this over 35 years and have suffered little of what you allege. However, you do have a good point that even one small, spurious "charge" can ruin a reputation or a career.

DrDan (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 1:14 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Those women if anything werent "barred because they were women.. they were barred because they were competition to men who already had jobs and careers and were probably the sole breadwinners for their families.. and they didnt want or need anyone competing for their positions.. Do you think many women were the breadwinners for their families 50-60-70 years ago or are we talking about the present?? When people point out how bad it was for women at a certain time in history.. it wasnt much better usually for men either... So men held better more prestigiouss jobs than women ...and protected said jobs.. I would too if I was the provider for my family.. and sure anyone else would too.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 1:56 p.m. (Suggest removal)

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 7:55 p.m. (Suggest removal)

To add to loon's link above and as solace for dophinpod14's long sufferin uncle:

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 8:54 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Audi: The following two articles by nationally known psychologist Tom Golden are likely to save you a lot of time as you go round and round with our favorite Good Man Project graduate.

1) Brainwashing Men and Brainwashing Women:

2) Brainwashing Men/Brainwashing Women Part 2:

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 12, 2014 at 9:08 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Well Sealion, I had to sit through 7 minutes of that woman blasting Tammy Bruce until she actually said something relevant--and playing the clip about Bruce stereotyping men.

You were right, but next time, make the information more user-friendly.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 13, 2014 at 12:16 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Ahhhhh Audi, I'm sorry you misconstrued. I don't for a second believe that mental illness is part of the conversation; i don't know you and would never make that judgement based on a few textbytes .
The persecution complex is a set of shackles that can be loosed. You guys are certainly feeling sorry for yourselves, and you're angry because of this and that. Carrying that sort of emotional baggage is a heavy load and i sympathize; I've got plenty of my own so i understand your pain. My overall point is that you are choosing to deal with it in a very reactionary way that is dragging your souls into a hell of your own choosing. Feeding the angst is some internet propaganda that you are choosing to spoon feed yourselves as it bolsters the worldview you have adopted. You are guilty of buying into a sham that sends you further from your true nature. Be angry.....then let go of that anger.

Eggs_Ackley (anonymous profile)
June 13, 2014 at 8:19 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Will do BillC.

Eggs, you are like some brainwashed and unconsciously bigoted white guy in the Deep South before the CRM took off trying give black guys anger management therapy. Enough already. You've got more than you can handle already just pulling your head out the lame stream news sand.

The shameless sham YOU bought into long ago is the real elephant in the room here. Just because Starshine and the rest of the lame stream faux-liberal media parrot pigheaded feminist propaganda to you doesn't right make it. Be skeptical and then go do your homework or prepare to become increasingly irrelevant.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 13, 2014 at 12:31 p.m. (Suggest removal)

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 12:31 p.m. (Suggest removal)

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 12:49 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Most of the men that post here.. and you know who you are of course.. need to wake up.. because your master and her ilk have convinced you that your "free" but youre not.. youre much like the wild animal thats been in a cage for so long.. sadly peering out at a world that you use to proudly be a part of..inventing, building, discovering, protecting, sacrificing for.. and now you apologize to your captor.. begging for sex. a new toy, or a spot in the garage to call your own, or the postponement of some other type of punishment she may deal out if YOU dont do what SHE wants.
The cage door is open and you just sit there..too afraid to even think about going outside.. because we all know youve been broken..

Stand up for yourself...tell your master no!.. and watch the eyes roll back into their sockets as they look around in disbelief as their "slave" slips the chains off.. breaking free of the shame, guilt, and pain.. thats been driven into him because he is just a "man" and responsible for all the war, greed, and evil in the world...and you will know freedom my friend!

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 1 p.m. (Suggest removal)

And where do all these "bad men" come from??

Probably raised by single moms.. yep I said it!!

Most likely fed a steady diet of "men=bad" from the day they are born.. by their when they are older they will feel so much guilt over being a man.. barely a man by the way.. that they have children with the most undesireable female that you can think of. and then the cycle repeats again!
The mom will get all tatted up and then when shes in here late 30's decide that she ready for "a real Man" when shes basically all used up and so jaded that no decent guy would ever sign up to see that train wreck!!

Women control the gateway to creation and most just throw it away by having kids with dbags.

audidriver2010 (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 1:19 p.m. (Suggest removal)

#burkafever. attaboy audi.

lawdy (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 2:09 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Survey reveals women more turned on by new shoes than their significant others

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 5:15 p.m. (Suggest removal)

"Burka fever"...someone could do a parody of the Sylvers' disco hit "Boogie Fever" and replace it with those words. Lawdy and I can get credit for coming up with the idea.

Sealion: What is "CRM therapy"?

Audidriver: The great thing about getting older is that your sex drive diminishes and you care less and less about what people think of you.

I often wonder what the world would be like if every person on the planet were divested of their sex drive for six months. What an interesting concept.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 17, 2014 at 6:24 p.m. (Suggest removal)

BillC: CRM=Civil Rights Movement. Anger therapy=anger therapy.

Audi: Sign me up for some of that there freedom long as I don't have to lose my balls to enjoy it. The trick here is to fly the coop somehow without giving up sex or loving fascist feminist bigots. Now THAT would be quite the topic for Starshine to wax poetic about, wouldn't it.

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 18, 2014 at 10:48 p.m. (Suggest removal)

The left is imploding right now.. Hillary Clinton helped a rapist of a 12 year old girl go free several decades ago even though she knew he was guilty.

loonpt (anonymous profile)
June 20, 2014 at 12:11 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Sort of like our very own congresswoman, isn't she, loonpoint?

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 22, 2014 at 12:37 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Whoa, hold on there Loonpt, are You saying that lawyers sometimes are less than ethical and have a win-at-all-costs mentality?

billclausen (anonymous profile)
June 22, 2014 at 6:19 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Hilarious clip on consent made especially for our most vocal local gender bigot, Hannah Beth Jackson: Should I go get my lawyer, Hannah Beth?

Sealion (anonymous profile)
June 24, 2014 at 12:50 a.m. (Suggest removal)

Sorry Sealion, but this clip on sexual harassment is much shorter, and much funnier.

dolphinpod14 (anonymous profile)
June 24, 2014 at 5:51 a.m. (Suggest removal)

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