Kevin Thomas McIvers

1953 - 2013, Santa Barbara

09/28/1953 - 09/07/2013

A Life Well Lived

Dear Kevin,

I miss you so much. I am heartbroken that you are gone.

Anyone who knew you, loved you. You had qualities all of us wanted, but few of us possessed. You lived your life with joy and laughter and love for your family and your friends.

You loved your work. Being a mediator suited you perfectly. You felt it was a calling, not a career. You wanted to help people work through what was often one of the most difficult times of their lives. People who came to you in times of trouble felt like you really heard them, understood them, and wanted to help them. At the end of the day, you made most people's lives better. Not a lot of us can say that.

There were sides to you that most people didn't know. You loved to surf. You loved music and to play the guitar (you even took weekly lessons). You liked Pinot Noir wine, and would often wander to a neighbor's house with a bottle to share. You wore dress shirts on Sunday, just because it was Sunday. You were always reading a spiritual book. You would snack on cheese and dark chocolate. You watched political T.V. every night. You loved to play basketball.

There were things you never got to do, but always wanted to do. You wanted to surf in Fiji. You wanted to take a Missions trip. You wanted to travel to Israel and visit the Holy Land. You wanted to see your children get married and have families of their own.

Kevin, you had a life cut short, but a life well lived. Not many people can say that.

From all of us who were blessed enough to have known you, thank you for sharing yourself. We are enriched beyond measure.

Love you always,


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I am thankful to say that, in one time of my life, I knew Kevin McIvers and he was a friend. He lived with me and Mary and Ashok (about 4 then) for a while. He would take Ashok to Hendry's Beach with him, and they would go out around the buoy on surfboards. Once, he decided to try out backpacking, so I loaned him some gear and he went off to the Sierra. When he returned, I asked him how he liked it...he replied, "a little of that goes a long way". He was often a man of few words, but he could make them stick in your memory. After we moved from SB to our current abode in Creston, he was up in SLO to do some work, and he drove over the hill to say hi and see how we were doing. I don't think that I have ever known a better man.

bel (anonymous profile)
September 17, 2013 at 3:05 p.m. (Suggest removal)

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