I Kissed a Girl. Seriously.

"I kissed a girl and I liked it. A lot."

I couldn't care a lot less, seriously.

"Women are still viewed primarily as sex objects."

Apparently by you. A Lot. For the rest of us well balanced mature adults, we view women as mothers, sisters, friends and bosses.

What the gay community doesn't reaize is most of us have better things to worry about then your sexual angst.

We're tired of the same old complaints. You have the freedom to do what you want in the privacy of your own home and we don't understand why you must push your sexual pleasure preferences in our face in public ...A lot.

I know you're queer and you're here...Get over yourself and get on with your life. Feel free not to overshare...

Hey, Penny

I'm glad you were able to find your true sexuality with your college friend. Way too often, gay people strive to live up to the expectations of family and / or society and get married, have children, get divorced, and finally realize they aren't really straight afterall.

"You have the freedom to do what you want in the privacy of your own home and we don't understand why you must push your sexual pleasure preferences in our face in public". sa1, is your marriage, assuming you're married or hope to be one day, considered a "sexual pleasure preference"? The financial, legal relationship between you and your spouse, also a "sexual pleasure preference"? Ability to make decisions for your children, medical decisions for your significant other if it came to it, and security you share as a result of your legal ties, a "sexual pleasure preference"? That first kiss you shared with someone special, is that something way too dirty to talk about in public or in front of the kids? Why should any human being deem another's experiences less important, and to be kept to themselves? It's really interesting how gay people relaying their experiences in a forum where one can choose to or choose not to read them is "oversharing", while conservatives expressing bigoted opinions whenever and wherever they please is called freedom of speech. You better take a good look around, the "we" you're proudly speaking on behalf of is slowly but surely becoming a much smaller crowd :)

"Someone recently asked me why I thought society was more okay with depicting lesbians than gay men, and I think the answer to that is simple, but utterly terrifying: Women are still viewed primarily as sex objects. "

And gay men don't view each other as sex objects?

We don't care. Seriously. Agree with sa1. I don't see too many columns on some individual's personal hetero-sexual exploits and sexual experimentation thankfully - it would make me gag equally. It's personal and intimate, keep it that way. Hetero or homo - nobody wants to hear about it. Do something useful with your life rather than making a point and career of openly proclaiming your sexual proclivities. Nobody's stopping you from having a lifestyle of your choice - have at it, but please refrain from sharing. We don't need to hear about it, and it makes no contribution to society, other than help decay it's innocence and morality.

Boy, AShaw, I've got a link that will really make you lose your lunch! It's like the Gay Girl column, but without the social context. You know, just meat & potatoes.

http://www.independent.com/news/columns/...

What about "Gay Pride" rallies? Can anyone expound on that?

Binky: I have spent a long time trying to forget about the garbage column by Chausser d'homme with all of its superficiality. When I saw that name, not only did I lose my lunch, but my dinner as well.

All that having been said, we live in a time where humility is on life support so it is only natural that our culture celebrates people talking about their various lusts.

Yes there used to be a thing called "modesty", you don't hear the term too often anymore. I wonder if anyone even knows what it means? Am I that old, or have we decayed that far morally? Perhaps both, but happy to have experienced the modest old days. I treasure it. Sorry for those who have to grow up in these times, most especially, my children. Innocence lasts about as long as it takes to learn to read or watch TV.

Penny, thank you thank you thank you! It means a lot to me that somebody else took offense with this girls idiotic lyrics. It's disappointing to me that someone like Perry can use the word 'gay' as an insult and everybody just lets it slip.

To all the 'I don't care' comment makers: Maybe you should. You'd care if the girl was using racial terms in a derogatory, demeaning way, playing off stereotypes and generally being a bigot in that sense. But when she plays to sexism or homophobia, apparently it's still alright with you. Well, that's gotta change. And it will change.

By the way, just because a girl's queer doesn't mean she by necessity views women as sex objects. I'm a straight guy, and I don't view women as sex objects.

And I thought this was a progressive town...

Now how would people respond if Katy Perry was a man singing, "I Kissed A Boy?"

If you don't want to read it, how about... don't read it? Simple as that! And Penny, as always, fabulous column. Don't let the homophobes get to you, and of course, I know you won't. Brilliant as usual. We love you gay girl!!

Oh and sa1, the column is called "Gay girl, straight world," so she's going to talk about... being a gay female. Makes sense to me. Also, if she'll let me speak for her, she's not pushing anything on anyone. She's writing a column about being a gay woman. She didn't get into details, she didn't get dirty, so you need to get over yourself and realize there will be gays in this world no matter what, and they have every damn right to talk about their relationships, just like you do. If you don't like it, get your own damn column.

Pinkerbell,

I do have my own column...It's at the end of the other columns I care to read.

My objection was to the tired, strawman argument that "every woman" is viewed as a sex object. That's patently is not true. Taken a good look at Rosie O'Donnel lately?

Doesn't "homophobic" mean you are scared of homos? I'm not scared of them, they just disgust me. Do what you want behind closed doors like most heteros do, just asking not to share and demand it be put in our face in newspapers, TV, and making our children think it is normal and equal by your agendas in school and politics. Yes , we don't have to read it, but I do just for the chance to share my opinion of how sick I am of the "in your face" gay mafia agenda to make homosexual sex the same thing as heterosexual sex. I will be writing a song called "I licked my dogs butt" and I will be asking for tolerance and understanding and special attention to my sick perversion. Then I will be demanding legislation to make it equal to heterosexual behavior, corrupt traditional families and I will be asking for a huge cut of the tax base to find a treatment for the worms I get from licking my dog's butt. I'm not scared of you homos that are going to call me homophobic. If that is the term you want to use, then I am homophobic and proud! Now go back in your closets and stop making me want to puke. I demand tolerance for people who feel sick when they see anything homosexual. AIDs is nothing compared to the sick feeling you give me as you continue to corrupt the society and families around you. Any comments? Its time for people to be homophobic and proud and I am leading the backlash. If you don't like my comments don't read them! I personally don't care, just like you don't care for my values.

And by the way Wrench it's not a progressive town, it's just that the so-called progressives don't know how to shutup and keep to themselves, giving the illusion that everyone is "progressive". Not true. Move if you don't like it, there are a lot of us fed up with the progressive agenda and are tired of progressives mucking up a good thing. How about leaving well enough alone for once and stop the "progression". You don't know how good you have things just as they are. Just wait until they "change" so much that your own culture will go the way of the dinosaur. Trust me, you won't like it.