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Posted on May 20 at 9:23 p.m.

Then we are absolutely in agreement, Kingprawn, that the survey is meaningless. My comments went beyond the survey, however, to point out that without knowing how or why someone is "obese" or has other physical maladies or is emotionally depressed or fighting mental illness, there are far too many of us who make judgments about their "condition" based solely on what is visible failing to recognize that such judgments are meaningless. A person's value is not based on one's physique, but the intangibles that come from the mind and heart. I used personal stories to illustrate my point, and not to garner any empathy. My professional life has been devoted to the mentally and physically challenged, and I will always be their advocate. They were not "surveyed" about their "choices". They and their families have simply worked through the conditions life brought them, and I admire their resiliency.

On Better Blind Than Fat?!

Posted on May 19 at 8:56 p.m.

Could any of these "would you rather" choices ever be "politically correct" or "entirely meaningless"? For nearly 2 years I was placed on a heavy daily dose of steroids for a rare lung condition and faced an enormous weight gain and bloating that required me to buy clothing several sizes larger than my "normal" size. A dear friend is suffering with glaucoma that cost her one eye and her remaining eye is deteriorating rapidly until she loses sight altogether. My youngest child was brain-injured at birth, has seizures daily, and the drugs she takes increases her overall body weight. What choice does she have: stop taking the drugs to lose the unwanted weight and have her body wracked daily with severe seizures or . . .? And somewhere along the way we have learned that alcoholism is an addiction - possibly genetic - as well as some forms of depression, i.e. bipolar, manic depressive disorder, paranoid-schizophrenia. Maybe one of those models suffering from anorexia or bulemia would prefer to be "just a little bit fat". How can any of us classify these serious medical problems as "meaningless" or put them in any category of "choice" when we don't have all the facts or solutions? Who are we to sit in judgment on another human being who doesn't "measure up" to our personal standards for what is viewed on the body's exterior? Do we no longer value the mind and heart representing thoughtfulness and goodness within persons? If we lose that ability and fail to remind ourselves and our children of this fact daily, then I fear our society has lost all semblance of hope and genuine charity.

On Better Blind Than Fat?!

Posted on April 26 at 11:30 p.m.

Unfortunately, the "punctuation" isn't the only "lame" portion of this article. The idea that any of us reasonably intelligent and mature adults would be remotely interested in reading about this topic and even commenting on it defies explanation. Where is the source of wisdom about family life and nurturing children in the midst of such deviant behaviors? I am stunned that readers of this drivel accept it as the status quo.

On Buy Yourself a Date

Posted on March 27 at 7:11 p.m.

David, if the Red-state of FL is as behind-the-times as you state with regard to recycling ALL of its residents' trash, then you should take seriously my suggestion to inform and educate the "Know-Nothings". Since the folks in Santa Barbara and Cali are head and shoulders above the residents of the remaining 49, you could research their recycling management acumen and provide that info to the leaders of your community and state. Just think of the difference you could make.

On Green Is the Loneliest Color

Posted on March 24 at 11:02 p.m.

Actually those of my generation promoted "reduce, reuse, recycle" in the mid-to-late '70s, perhaps because our own parents who had lived through the Great Depression and two World Wars understood the value of conserving and not wasting our limited resources. Visits to European countries with nations much smaller than the US further confirmed the fact that these simple concepts could be adopted by communities and would make a considerable difference in the quality of life for all. Now in the midst of unspeakable disasters the able residents of Japan are continuing their tradition of quietly and steadily "reducing, reusing, and recycling". How dare anyone make fun of or joke about these industrious citizens of our world who face incomparable obstacles, yet are dedicated to restoring some semblance of order to their families, their villages and towns, and nation at large! We could learn so much from the world around us if only we would shed some of our ill-conceived arrogance and misguided sense of self-importance. Unfortunately your article appears to elevate the people of Santa Barbara and California to a higher level of enlightenment about environmental issues and solutions while relegating anyone living east of the Continental Divide (singling out the states of South Carolina and Georgia) as totally unaware of or even concerned about the future of our planet. Does anyone really care about landfills, oil spills, or global warming? We are after all a nation composed of 50 states that could and should be "united" on problems that affect the health and welfare of everyone. Instead of pointing fingers negatively at those who are less informed, why not launch a nationwide campaign that would educate positively the broader benefits of "reducing, reusing, and recycling". You might be amazed at the results.

On Green Is the Loneliest Color

Posted on February 26 at 5:08 p.m.

True natural beauty cannot be purchased at any price. It emanates from within. One's physcial attributes are determined at conception. But one can make choices about how to make the most of innate intelligence. Maybe comedians can make a living by proding women into social action using profanity or other methods. Women of all ages and races can make a difference in our world and make it a much better place for our children and grandchildren by determining their "passion" and giving more than "lip service" to it. For instance, my incredibly gorgeous wife has devoted her life to children with disabilities never knowing that she would give birth to a child with mental and physical challenges. She is a prime example of giving "power" to her "passion". You younger women who have so much going for you and have resources to share may find service in your own community a worthwhile use of your energy and intelligence. Accept this as a challenge!

On Comedian Ribs the Sisterhood

Posted on February 16 at 7:22 p.m.

Actually death is simply the end of living. It is ideal for children to grow up in families with pets and experience that special interchange of loving and being loved in return and all that is involved in the care of a pet. None of us can predict when or how the end of life will occur (natural causes, disease, accidents) whether human or animal. But children will begin to learn about the "seasons of life" from pets (goldfish, birds, cats, dogs, etc.) and will be better prepared to deal emotionally with the ultimate end of life when it comes.

On When to Say When

Posted on February 13 at 1:55 p.m.

Perhaps you are unaware that B.O.O.P. is a serious interstitial lung disease! The "love-of-my-life" and I share office space as well as virtual and cyber space during the day and retreat to more romantic spaces when the mood strikes us. Retirement and age have not interferred with our "love life", for we celebrate Valentine's Day every day!

On Marriage by iChat

Posted on January 29 at 7:03 a.m.

I would certainly like to know what restaurants you frequent
where parents are rude and children are unruly, so I may avoid all of you! Is it too much to believe that the concept "respect for others" and "civility" exist only in our imaginations? As current parents, are you exhibiting your own parents' actions and reactions, or are you attempting to break the chain of poor penalizing parenthood? This does make a difference in the future of our children, our families, and ultimately our nation. Please think about this before behaving out of some self-righteous holier-than-thou attitude when encountering situations described so vividly.

On Correcting Others' Children

Posted on January 19 at 9:01 p.m.

While I identify with some of the scenarios described, I have approached such incidents with "positive re-enforcement" which I learned as a young mother several decades ago. Now when I encounter young families eating in restaurants and see children behaving and enjoying their outing, I always stop by their table to express appreciation that the children are so well-mannered and well-behaved (perhaps "old-fashioned" traits, but undoubtedly behaviors modeled and taught by caring parents). You might try this sometime. Parents will feel grateful that someone has noticed.

On Correcting Others' Children

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