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Posted on January 2 at 11:22 a.m.
Wow. I can see how this is tempting, but I'm so glad I grew up right before all of this madness. My parents were lax: No curfew, but I'd upset them if I came home too late; Wouldn't hound me about where I was, but if I ended up stranded or in trouble, I would have lots of yelling to look forward to alongside the gut-wrenching loss of respect from them.
As a result, I drank young and learned I hated getting sick young. I slept at guys' houses and also learned how I wanted to be treated/not treated by men. I smoked cigarettes and pot and learned I felt better when I did not. I starved myself and realized it didn't make me happy. If my parents had known where I was/what I was doing, they would have fainted.
But even at 18 (I'm 25 now)-- I was ahead of my more supervised peers. When I was set free into the world, I had already made decisions for my own life. My friends wonder how I can have just two drinks before stopping, or walk away from a toxic relationship. I know my parents' style could have different effects on different people, but I thank god for it. I've had enough to focus on and learn through college and in my 20s, like my actual studies and my career.
On Tracking Your Teen
Posted on July 27 at 6:53 a.m.
How is this entire article written in the passive voice?
On A 50-Year-Old Surprise
Posted on May 8 at 11:50 a.m.
I would say "amen," but I'm an atheist, too.
Posted on December 11 at 1:52 p.m.
Kids are so babied these days.As a college student, I see many young adults depressed about their small failures that don't matter, looking for the instant gratification that they are used to receiving their whole lives for doing nothing.The "I deserve this, this, this, and this" attitude.When a lot of people are rewarded, they are unfulfilled by the rewards, because they mean nothing.When I played soccer at age 8, I daydreamed a lot on the field and didn't do a whole lot for my team. During the last few games, though, I ended up playing well and helping my team out.When trophies were passed out, I was awarded for "most improved."I think trophies shouldn't just be passed out like candy. I think a good medium between the "everyone wins" attitude and the "face the fact that you are a loser" attitude is rewarding kids for different things, things that they actually DESERVE praise for.Of course, I wasn't going to get the trophy for scoring the most goals or exhibiting the best teamwork. If I had, I wouldn't have felt fulfilled by the trophy. Even at age 8.
Posted on November 20 at 2:26 p.m.
"I know people with college educations voted overwhelmingly against Prop. 8."
But don't you know? All college professors are crazy, radical liberals, brainwashing all college students everywhere.
It has nothing to do with the fact that more intelligent, "thinkier" people tend to lean to the left. It's not that the left is more logical at all.
Rather, all college professors are brainwashed liberals, too, with agendas to change the world to a place where all people have equal rights.
How horrible. Keep your children away from college! God forbid they use logic and find it doesn't fit so well with religion.
Well spoken, Starshine.
Posted on October 23 at 6:55 p.m.
When I was 16, I partook in the competition for attention by dressing up as a slutty firefighter-- a costume I thought was so original.Four years later, I realize that being a "slutty" anything is more unoriginal than putting a pillowcase over my head with a few holes cut into it.At the same time, I don't want to disappear among all the boobs and butts in a granny get-up, so I've found a very nice middle ground.Last year I was a flapper girl, in a knee-length, fire engine-red dress, a jet black bob wig, and some amazing heels. I received tons of compliments and attention, but they were concerning my ideas, style, and effort (not my body parts).This year I was trying to find a simple, cute tinkerbell dress, and after searching the internet for way too long, the only dresses I found were of the slutty sort.
I'm far from prude, but everyone's focus is now on how much sexual attention they can garner, rather than what is fun or creative.Well, I have news for all of these people: When there are 800 other girls walking around in the same EXACT pre-packaged halloween costume that you are wearing, you stop looking sexy and start looking trite.
Posted on August 2 at 9:25 p.m.
I would be very proud to teach at SBCC, as well as have my own column in The Independent.
Lots of great teachers from prestigious universities come to teach at City College.
I went to SBCC (and took Starshine's fantastic class), and both UCLA and UCSB invited me into their Honors programs.
... Get over yourself, mcconfrontation.
This article wasn't even really about McCain. It's about how, as far as journalism is concerned, even famous people and authorities don't necessarily get the golden treatment.
Posted on June 27 at 2:58 p.m.
I enjoyed this column very much. Not just because of your writing style, but because I, too, am a little bus-phobic, having never had to use the system.Back where I grew up, the bus was out of the question for anyone even slightly affluent, as the only people who used the systems were the Hispanic housekeepers and nannies (and even many of them drove their own cars).I heavily support the use of bicycles, legs, and public transportation, and have really wanted to try taking the bus more often. It is so foreign to me that I've sort of shied away from it.However, hearing it from such a personal point-of-view, and one with which I can identify so much, I feel very inspired to get my butt on one. I'm sure I would enjoy that kind of freedom, and also the company of new, interesting, and diverse people.
On Next Stop: Freedom
Posted on June 1 at 9:20 a.m.
I like how you covered this unspoken topic with brevity and unhampered honesty.I think a lot of unhappiness and anxiety in the world can be directly attributed to the fact that people are afraid to talk about such things. Kudos for speaking up about this in such a delightful manner.
On Do You Have to Like Your Kids?
Posted on May 5 at 10:34 p.m.
I think some of you here are taking this way too personally.Seriously.
On A Croc of Shoe
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