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Posted on January 13 at 11:30 p.m.
Great article!!! I've been waiting for the Indy to make this a cover story. Per capita, SB has an extremely high rate of alcoholism and addiction (as well as high marriage, high divorce and high Pepto-Bismol consumption - ha) and deserves to be recognized and celebrated for it's myriad recovery opportunities.
There are some very funny comments from people 'on the outside', who speak of what they do not personally know. Please, dears, take many seats. In the group setting of recovery, there is a swiftness in relating to others who suffer similarly and it's of utmost importance that the 'newcomer' gets 'related' as quickly as possible. Most of us have spent a lifetime calling ourselves "lone wolves" and "black sheep" just to further distinguish ourselves as special and unique: the downfall of the addict/alcoholic as it separates us from others.
I now see that we are ALL special and unique in our own way. And we are all related. I first had to get related to others who have suffered similarly before my view widened outside the group. They told me to get a sponsor and do 90 meetings in 90 days ("90 and 90") to get my feet planted firmly in the fellowship. They told me to go to ONLY women's meetings in the first year so that I could get related faster, open up faster, to feel nurtured and safe by those who understood me. They told me to tell men who spoke to me in my first year that I was "a newcomer and I'm only speaking with women in my first year but it was nice meeting you." I avoided drama and the likelihood of losing my recovery in my first year by avoiding relationships. They told me I needed to focus on my relationship with a Higher Power of my own choosing and myself, above all.
Well, I did what they suggested, most of the time. Today, I work with a sponsor and sponsees. My life is more rich and multi-textured than I could have ever imagined. It's very simple: everyday I choose to live and am thankful for a clean and sober life AND I don't pickup a drug or a drink - NO MATTER WHAT. I stay in the 'middle of the herd'. I love the extreme lack of drama. I adore the abundance of peace and live for the connection I feel in the fellowship. It's a pretty fantastic life. And I never, ever wake up feeling like a loser anymore. "In exchange for a bottle and a hangover, I got the keys to the kingdom" that I never even knew I wanted (or that it was even possible) and for that, I am eternally grateful.
On Santa Barbara’s Many Paths to Becoming Clean & Sober
Posted on August 7 at 1:56 p.m.
I'm surprised that this conversation doesn't show up more often as it sure seems like a dirty little secret in this town. I, myself, am an animal lover of astronomical proportions, yet, I also believe that more animals need to be euthanized rather than spending much of their lives in cages using up resources that could be better utilized.
Sounds like there's not enough room at the shelter and like someone else has said, there seems to be a clusterfudge around the whole operation. The dogs are suffering because of this. It appears to have become a battle of wills.
Who's really caring for these dogs? If you allow and fight for dogs to stay in cages for more than a six month stretch, are you *really* caring for them or are you allowing your ego to take charge? Egos aside, what is an acceptable standard of life for these animals? Does anyone really care?
I feel like there needs to be a new way of viewing the procedure of euthanization as one that allows for freedom, compassion and truly deep respect for the animal. In fact, it may actually be the very best and most loving thing we can do in many cases.
On Dog Fight
Posted on August 5 at 10:08 p.m.
"Forget the Pulitzer Prize, the NewsPress will only qualify for the new award, THE PUTZ PRIZE!"
On City Responds to Peter Lance
Posted on March 28 at 12:16 p.m.
I really enjoy your articles, Katie. I agree with billclausen, he's a good guy and his patients seem to get great results.
On Hiatal Hernia
Posted on March 21 at 3:19 p.m.
I drank when I was a teenager. I was a binge drinker starting at 12 and for the last few years I've been a happy, sober, recovering alcoholic. I agree that you can't stop kids from doing stuff because they're curious and going to want to do it anyway. Looking back, my parents did what this wonderful young reporter suggested: they let us drink at home and sometimes would allow other kids to do so as well but mostly it was only their own teens. We thought this was great and thought our parents were so cool for allowing this.
One thing that was missing was talk about WHY we felt the need to drink, check out, not be 'present' at a party when there were tons of friends around, although our bodies were there, our minds were clearly not so much. In recovery, there's alot of talk about 'resentments' and working the steps to see what they are, why they're there and who they're directed towards. Most people are surprised to see how many resentments are directed at themselves.
At first, I disagreed that resentments were the reason I drank but after some time, it's more clear to me than ever. Many say that drugs and alcohol aren't the core issue: they're the result of underlying discomfort i.e. resentments (along with selfishness and self-centeredness). If I would have known to ask for counseling to work out these issues, I'd like to think that I would have. Until the age of 18, it's actually the parents responsibility to know this and get help for their teen because after 18, you're on your own!
Avery, I appreciate your viewpoint and glad that you get to express it in the Indy. You did a public service by beginning the discussion. It's a subject that deserves to get some attention and discourse. It's also somewhat complicated and I agree that the parent's responsibility is at the core of the conversation. Kids drinking to excess at such an early age should be a big warning sign. Taking the time to explore WHY they're doing this (at all) is something that deserves to be looked at.
For what it's worth, I know many kids who who grew up without feeling the need to explore drugs and alcohol, whatsoever. Are they better, more well-adjusted? I'm not sure but I know they're not abusing their bodies with toxic substances and they never have to worry about driving impaired (and possibly killing themselves and/or others as a result of that choice). Unfortunately, I was not one of them and allowed myself to stay uncomfortable for a very long time before I sought help.
On A Teen Drinking Primer
Posted on December 13 at 2:46 p.m.
What a fabulous event! We bought a sustainable xmas tree and it looks absolutely breathtaking in our living room. Nice to know it was made by local artisans and for a good cause, as well.
On Fishbon Launches Two-Day Alt-Holiday Market
Posted on December 6 at 2:07 p.m.
Sorry, I just read on Wikipedia that it's not true that their jaws lock, I was very misinformed:
On A Pooch with Your Pinot?
Posted on December 6 at 2:04 p.m.
If you knew and loved pit bulls, Staffordshire Terriers, American Staffordshire Terriers, American Pit Bull Terriers and the like, you'd know that they're some of the most loving and devoted breeds around. Bmac, your information doesn't take into account the circumstances that surround the pit bulls that are involved in a typical attack.
Do you ever watch the Dog Whisperer? He spends more time and money than anyone I know re-educating people about this breed. I agree that training a dog really means "training humans and rehabilitating dogs" which suggests that it's the humans that are the real problem. He has 14 pit bulls in his compound and maybe four other breeds. He uses the pack to socialize other dogs that are difficult.
My opinion of pit bulls is that they have such big hearts that when they are broken by a neglectful/abusive owner, as loving as they are they will turn equally as vicious. It's a fact that their jaws lock in place when they latch onto something during an attack, which makes people who like to abuse these magnificent animals want to have them around for destructive, intimadating purposes.
When Michael Vick's compound was raided, they removed somewhere around 100 dogs but only 48 or so survived. I read somewhere that only ONE was not able to be rehabilitated to the point that they could put them into a home. These dogs really deserve a deeper look. It takes someone with a big heart and a discerning manner that's willing to look deeper and see what's really there and in my opinion, it's more than worth it. Our shelters are packed with these sweethearts. With a good owner, they'll end up re-educating the skeptics with their sunny disposition, incomparable loyalty and happy whole-body wiggles.
""These aren't the killer dogs people might think they are," said sanctuary co-founder Michael Mountain. "They're frisky, fun, and very loving."
Of the 48 surviving Vick dogs, one was euthanized because it displayed excessive human aggression."
(THANK YOU Carvinitas and Shadow's Fund! You're doing great work.)
Posted on November 22 at 11:11 a.m.
Mr. Hunt, I concur that there's no need here to get so emotionally charged here and/or engage in character assassination. IMO, it doesn't bring any validity to your arguments. In fact, I'm likely to skip reading it entirely as soon as I see it begin.
On The Zombie Defense
Posted on November 20 at 4:59 p.m.
Bye x 2 and don't let the door hit you in the butt.
On Fife Symington Leaves Botanic Garden