My Best Friend’s Bedding

A snappy update to give you guys the latest and greatest on the Dating Dr., among other things.

dating%20columnist.jpg Thomas and I never went on a date, as he called Dana first, and I instantly decided to step back. I’m not one for dating my girlfriend’s beau, even if they’ve only been out a few times. To me the rules of sisterhood completely supersede the desire to find a potential boyfriend. Always. I was thrilled when I heard that the speed-dating doctor and Dana really hit it off. They had a two-hour phone conversation the first time they spoke, and it appears they share a passion for skiing, martial arts, and St. Bernhard dogs. I mean, what are the chances? She was positively beaming with excitement when we met up at Nature’s Grill to gossip about guys, work, and yes more guys… It’s a win-win situation, really. I never had a strong connection with this guy and Dana practically wrote their vows already. I figure that since I was the one, who brought her to the speed-dating event, maybe I can get dibs on his cute, single MD friends at the wedding. Thanks so much to those of you who commented and emailed me with advice on where to meet cool guys in Santa Barbara. I really appreciate it! And, to the few who went off on a tangent about how I shouldn’t rule out the possibility of dating guys who still live at home with their parents; I totally disagree.

Everyone is allowed a few preferences, especially when getting involved in something as vibrant yet tantalizing as the SB dating scene. That doesn’t mean I believe men who still live with their parents to be dangerous, low-minded, or even less trustworthy than other members of the male species. I’m just not likely to be dating any of them in the near future. It’s such a mood-killer having to worry about his mom walking in on you when you’re getting your freak on after a night out on the town. Ever watch Failure To Launch, with Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew McConaughey? Then you know what I’m talking about. Or in the words of a true romance guru, Dating Dad, “An adult man living at home=loser. Period. Unless he’s caring for his sick mom. And even then, it’s a fine line.” Thanks for commenting, Eric! Surprisingly, my friend The Biker has really stepped up his game lately. He’s been around to drive me to the airport when I jet off to other continents, jumpstart my car when the battery dies, and force-feed me vitamins and Enchincea, when my health is compromised. So for the past few months I’ve come to depend on this guy. Heavily. For friendship, laughs and endless talks about life and love.

It’s not just that he’s cute, fun, and hella smart. Lately I’ve been having these dreams, where we’re playing more than the usual game of backgammon on his bedding! Surely that must mean something. Only, I’m not the type of person to leap into a friends-with-benefits situation, so it’s either-or. Black or white. I fear that he might still fancy his ex, or that snogging him will corrupt the friendship beyond repair if it doesn’t work out between us. Gosh, maybe I’m totally over-thinking this and need to grab a Corona and just go with the flow. The situation in a nutshell; I’ve invited him to SOhO for dinner this weekend and I’m not sure where to go from here. All I know is that this guy challenges me, inspires me, and makes my heart skip a beat sometimes. Oh, and I’m also aware that he’s crushing on me, so a hook-up should be plausible after a few martinis! Would you throw caution to the wind and hook up with a friend at the risk of losing the friendship? Please post your comments fast. I need guidance! Thanks, and have a great weekend. I promise to let you know how things play out… soonish! Ciao for now! Chassy

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